tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314848.post4673753755578106366..comments2023-10-19T23:31:13.746-07:00Comments on Field Notes from an Evolutionary Psychologist: Are daily hassles worse than huge problems?Field Noteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18372584643389870376noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314848.post-27300103942712994952008-01-11T22:02:00.000-08:002008-01-11T22:02:00.000-08:00She needs professional "cognitive-behavior therapy...She needs professional "cognitive-behavior therapy" to change that pattern of cognition!Field Noteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18372584643389870376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314848.post-88405554321898393482008-01-11T21:56:00.000-08:002008-01-11T21:56:00.000-08:00Fascinating... There's a "case study" at my office...Fascinating... <BR/><BR/>There's a "case study" at my office for you. EVERYTHING that happens to her is a negative experience and is solely her fault. When something positive happens to her, she denies it entirely...she couldn't possibly deserve it. <BR/><BR/>So, my question is this: how does one encourage a self-inflicted victim like this to start blaming negative experiences on bad luck and start accepting the positive experiences as deserved?<BR/><BR/>(And no, I'm not talking about me...)Sara J Stuckeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13788569989891357401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314848.post-3125471778861788012008-01-09T10:31:00.000-08:002008-01-09T10:31:00.000-08:00Very interesting article. So it's actually psychol...Very interesting article. So it's actually psychologically healthy to blame negative events on bad luck...No wonder so many people do that, then. I tend to blame everything that happens to me on me, and then i worry and fret endlessly...lol,will take a few pointers there:):)Nezhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17290210512510980463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314848.post-63999928969339360612008-01-08T18:59:00.000-08:002008-01-08T18:59:00.000-08:00"Even stopping to allow someone to pull up his/her..."Even stopping to allow someone to pull up his/her sock that is around the arch of his/her foot is nice."<BR/><BR/>Yes! And I'd consider that an example of "clothing-adjustment grooming."<BR/><BR/>Grooming another primate is nice, supportive behavior :)Field Noteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18372584643389870376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314848.post-27953143670429076312008-01-08T18:56:00.000-08:002008-01-08T18:56:00.000-08:00Even stopping to allow someone to pull up his/her ...Even stopping to allow someone to pull up his/her sock that is around the arch of his/her foot is nice. Or, if the support system is really strong, you may have someone to remind you that that pair of socks never stays up properly...at least not with "those" particular shoes. Maybe that's beyond the call of duty.PGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160883537054763513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314848.post-3873480536799210722008-01-08T17:02:00.000-08:002008-01-08T17:02:00.000-08:00I think social support is more important than perc...I think social support is more important than perceived control. But - say a person lacks social support, then perceived control would be much more important.<BR/><BR/>I think loved ones can help with socks. A simple hand on the shoulder with a smile are helpful, supportive. And then if that person buys you a new pair of socks and leaves them tucked in your shoes for you to find as a surprise - BINGO!<BR/><BR/>Social support for annoying socks =DField Noteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18372584643389870376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30314848.post-42003202256621985502008-01-08T16:53:00.000-08:002008-01-08T16:53:00.000-08:00Do you think control would be more important than ...Do you think control would be more important than social support? Seems like social support could account for much of the difference in health outcomes. Loved ones/support systems don't rally to help you cope with uncomfortable socks (i.e., the day-to-day annoyances).<BR/><BR/>Interesting reference...could be useful for my thesis.PGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160883537054763513noreply@blogger.com